The Longer the Wait, the Better the Ask

A friend said this to me the other day: 

The longer the wait, the better the ask.

There's sacred tension in waiting. 

Not the passive kind that numbs you into distraction, but the active, soul-stretching kind that refines your wants, needs, and desires. The longer you wait—not out of fear or indecision, but out of respect—the more precise, powerful, and in alignment your ask becomes.

Waiting isn't punishment. It's preparation. 

In spiritual growth, you often rush to name what you want before you've truly met yourself. 

You ask for love before you soften into self-acceptance. 

You ask for abundance before you heal your wounds of scarcity. 

You ask for clarity before you sit in the shadows long enough to know what truly matters to you. 

But when you wait—when you allow the silence to shape you, the longing to clarify you—your ask transforms. Your ask becomes less about fixing and more about fulfilling; less about proving something to others or yourself and more about receiving what you actually need. 

Here's the paradox: the longer you wait, the more you shed the noise. 

And what's left is a clear ask of what it is that your soul actually desires.

So, if you're in a season of waiting, trust and go with vs forcing.  

Let the waiting strip away your superficial asks and reveal the real ones.