It's Not What You Know

Have you ever wanted something so much to go your way, only for it not to go your way at all, or as you planned or hoped for? 

I'm sure this happens to you a lot, as it does to me. 

Below is some real-life advice I was given years ago that's helped me have a lot more things go my way and has significantly reduced my tendency to overreact to something that'd be better handled subtly. It is a gift to practice this advice daily, because each time I do, it helps me be a better person. 

I hope it does the same for you. 

Also, please share this blog post with anyone in your life who would benefit from this valuable and life-changing information. 

It's not what you know; instead, it's what you do with what you know that makes all the difference in the world. 

Let me break down the steps for putting the advice above into practice. 

1. Take a look at your reaction to the thing that didn't go your way. 

- How'd you react? Were you angry, passive-aggressive, taking it personally, or having an adult temper tantrum? 

- If you were, your reaction was actually the major contributor to the thing you wanted to go your way, not to go your way. 

2. To have the thing you want to go your way, your better reaction is to: 

 - Take ten slow, deep breaths; this usually takes about one minute. 

 - After ten breaths, refrain from reacting to the thing - challenging but doable.

 - Then, get your body moving; go for a walk, vacuum the house - anything. 

 - Finally and most importantly, while you're moving, let go of the outcome you had initially planned in your mind for the thing - making this choice for yourself makes a big difference because it causes a chain reaction for a much better result than the one you wanted to begin with.