You Have Zero Control.

You have zero control over most of everything in life.

 

The one thing that's challenging for me is letting go of the need to control someone else's emotions - specifically, anger. 

Why?

Because on some level, I take it personally and don't often recognize that their anger isn't about me -- whatever they're angry about, I happen to be the one in their immediate space at that moment, and they use me to lash out at. 

And I take it personally. 

And I want it to stop right away, and I want to get the conflict over as soon as possible because I don't like conflict, which in turn then creates way more conflict and unnecessary bullshit that then turns into unresolved emotions that cause damage that never intended to be caused in the first place. 

The adult thing to do would be to take a deep breath, assess my position, and back off. 

But. 

Sometimes, that's a hard thing to do. 

The shift in my mindset comes with first seeing my flaw because, ultimately, the issue with letting go of the need to control someone else's anger stems from myself. 

Seeing my part, from the outside looking in, I'm akin to a micro-manager; it's not attractive, and I feel childish, yet it's the reality of seeing the truth.